Need your advice

[billpods]

My friend is a writer. A few days ago, she gave me drafts of her erotic novel to read (because one day she bet that I would be the first reader of her forever ha-ha) and I was amazed at her skill in describing sex scenes! To be honest, I was a little jealous, because in my works I avoid sex scenes, because I can't describe them! She described everything with deliberate realism, especially when describing devices for such plays (a story based on BDSM topic). Once someone told me that in order to write well about something, you have to go through it. But I'm not sure if my friend is into BDSM. How do I know for sure though? In general, I have nothing against it, but I so wanted to experience that quivering excitement before the toy that the main character felt...

I have a great idea for my story, but I cannot imagine either tactile or visual range of my story. I will be glad to any advice or recommendations!

Thank you for attention,
love you.